Beauty As a Burden

The advantages being so obvious; therefore suffice to say it is platitudinous dwelling on the advantages of being beautiful.

Beauty in this context will cut across the gender. However, our leaning will angle towards the females. This does not in any sense obviate the fact beautiful men exist, although, the word beauty often associated with females.

The first salvo is the envy that great beauty attracts. Just as when Ants are attracted to sugar. They do not do so, as spectators, but to decimate it. Naturally most people condemn, what they do not have or cannot surpass. As such to desecrate or annihilate becomes the top notch choice. Hence, the finest Roses, Apples or Mangoes are most admired and surely most often than not get plucked first, even the Bible nudges its adherents to offer the best of their sheep and harvest to almighty God. A black sheep or one that is lame remains while the finest are long gone.

To be envied by a person is tortuous; by many is a taste of Hell. Some people think is a good thing for people to desperately want what you have. However, it is one of the biggest challenges in life and can gradually erode the personality of a subject. Imagine a Boxing Champion, an Olympic gold medalist defending his gold, the challenge of a Bill board chart buster, trying hard to remain afloat or to continuously produce monster hits, time after time.

Sometimes, when the pressure is much and there is no way to vent; personality disorders and recreational drug use, is common place to those constantly under pressure. More nightmarish, is the burden of a poor man, whose wife is fiendishly beautiful.

In other to remain on top, there is need to sustain the social status of being beautiful. The reason for maintenance pops up! Hollywood personalities have a hard time maintaining their looks, some lead to anorexia, like for models, others make plastic surgeons smile to the bank, while they bear the financial brunt, the stigma of failing Botox injections, face lift, nose augmentation, ad- nausea.

Beautiful people are sometimes tagged snubs, not because it is often so; rather some of those less endowed, subconsciously feel, it is incumbent on those so blessed to be all pleasing and ingratiating, and end up confusing prestige and pride. And as every one might have experienced at one time or the other, nothing is as loathsome as a feigned smile. The strain on the face, can tug an Ocean liner!

Therefore, it is not in any one’s make up to be so sweet all the time except in aberrational cases or simpletons. Or one who is permanently on a recreational use of laughing gas or a clown parading the circus. So far in practice is rather skirmishes arise, thereof, and without much ado, a beautiful woman is tagged proud or snub, even when she keeps to herself. In reality nothing makes beauty more sublime than to be calm and collected. In reality though, beauty exudes a clout that can be misinterpreted.

For lovers of anything beautiful, it is magnetic, and ultimately they will find themselves at the presence of a beautiful woman, they have either affinity for or familiarity with. Overtures are an everyday confrontation from admirers, and a woman not only learns to live with it, but deal with it as well.

However, there is a downside to it. Her reaction and attitude makes the difference. My mum tells my sisters that are only unusual when men do not approach women, especially if they are beautiful. So they should learn to handle it amicably without giving in, to just anybody.

An average man with low self esteem feels slighted if his overtures are turned down. His bile will rise and definitely, he will see her in a bad light.  She cannot be everybody’s friend or lover. Therefore, many come few, very few indeed are chosen (ceteris paribus), and those whose seeds fell on the rocks, bemoan their status and engage in the campaign of calumny and the pressure mounts on the lady concerned, if she does not know how to handle it appropriately.

When a woman is beautiful and she knows it, then people constantly acknowledge it. It is a compounded case. Foremost, it is prayed she is not a bimbo, because the distraction occasioned by many overtures, is enough to make a female Einstein a moron, over night.

Beauty opens doors, it’s the reason people naturally find it easier to overlook the nuisance and faults of a comely maiden. As well as being slow to suspect them of evil, forgetting that a venomous snake remains a serpent despite the colour variations. While it opens doors, sustenance becomes a challenge. Nothing is as boring and disconcerting as a boring beautiful lady. It reminds one of the statue of Venus; vain and utterly hopeless.

To be conceited as a beautiful person is not an extreme attitude; for uncontrolled emotions resonate in the brain as waves. Curtailment is the watch word. It is an attribute that is special and people should be proud of, not conceited about, as always no one knows when the boundary between hate and love is interchanged.

The pressure of great expectation; false premise abounds here, people generally pity a beautiful but poor girl, because subconsciously there is a belief that beauty and poverty is an unholy alliance. As such mutually exclusive and a snag on the wholeness of beauty; but an incontrovertible fact is Roses have thorns, neither are crystal clear waters immaculate.

The self delusion that beauty is a vehicle to El-dorado is common; especially when a beautiful lady finds herself, being the object of great overtures. And they start dreaming of unattainable heights. Indeed beauty is a visa to exotic opportunities, but it fails occasionally and dwindles as age comes to bear on the possessor.

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